A simple guide for eliminating negative thought patterns

Some thoughts are like passing clouds, we barely notice them before they drift away, but others appear to have taken permanent residence in the chambers of our mysterious brain. Such thoughts run rampant, colouring our perception and shaping our attitude. If they were supportive, motivating and empowering that would be great.

Unfortunately, most of the time the thoughts are negative, limiting or unhelpful. These thought patterns will be repeatedly recognised throughout this e-book and will help you understand how to take control of unwanted thoughts.

Thoughts become unwanted because of the emotional pain they create in their wake. Doubt, fear, insecurity, hesitation, resentment, sadness, or anger are all born out of negative thoughts - either as a by-product of life experiences, or imagined situations.

Unwanted thoughts that are repetitive and negative are similar to negative nagging people. No one likes to hang out with them.

Like an unwelcome guest, we try to get rid of these thoughts. But they stick around anyway.


Is your self-talk positive or negative?
Here are some common forms of negative self-talk:


  • You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all of the positive ones.
  • You had a great day at work. You completed your tasks ahead of time and were complimented for doing a speedy and thorough job.
  • That evening, you focus only on your plan to do even more tasks and forget about the compliments you received.


  • When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself.
  • You hear that an evening out with friends is cancelled, and you assume that the change in plans is because no one wanted to be around you.


  • You automatically anticipate the worst.
  • For example, the drive-through coffee shop gets your order wrong and you automatically think that the rest of your day will be a disaster.


  • You see things only as either good or bad. There is no middle ground, you feel that you have to be perfect or you’re a total failure.


  • This typically involves repetitive thoughts about future potential threats, imagined catastrophes, uncertainties, and risks (e.g. “What if they have an accident?”). It is conceptualised as an attempt to avoid negative events, to prepare for the worst.

With all that being said, when a person consciously develops a positive structure for discussing and processing events, with an intention to understand and learn, then repetitive thoughts affect positive change, have purpose and are imbued with healing energy.

iluminair's Positive Mental Attitude: a simple guide to eliminating negative thought patterns eBook, was created to serve one purpose; to help you control your mind from negative thought patterns and use it to empower you throughout your life experiences. It has been curated using some of the best resources available.